About The Adult Chair®
When I first experienced the power of the Adult Chair® coaching model in the fall of 2022, I was at a crossroads in my life. I was burned out from my role as co-director of a nonprofit organization, while my best friend and co-director was coming home from the hospital under hospice care. To add to the complexity, I was uncertain about what my next heart-aligned career shift would be and how to make it happen.
Emotionally depleted, physically exhausted, and only familiar with the habit of pushing through, I couldn’t identify a single self-care practice in my life. I was navigating periods of depression the best I could and carried an underlying belief that I was not enough or worthy of love.
What The Adult Chair® model offered me was more than just tools for healing; it provided a completely new way of being. Through this approach, I learned to process my grief with compassion, reconnect with my inner self, and honor my emotions without letting them define me. The freedom I found in healing was empowering.
It was through this transformation that I realized my purpose: to guide others on their own healing journeys. That’s why I’m so passionate about The Adult Chair® model and have become certified to share it with others. It is an honor to support you in uncovering your inner strength and creating the life you’re meant to live.
“Thank you so much, Jill, for knowing the right words to help me find those younger versions. We've had quite a few conversations since last week.”
Featured on The Adult Chair Podcast
I had the honor of joining Michelle Chalfant, alongside Rebecca Fellenbaum and Sara Stansberry, on The Adult Chair Podcast to delve into the transformative power of inner child work. Starting at 40:22, I share how The Adult Chair model became the most effective tool for healing the complicated grief of losing my father at a young age. During our conversation, I also demonstrate how I connect with my 6-year-old self — the age I was when these life-altering events occurred — and how this practice has profoundly supported my healing journey.
Reactions to Podcast
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Your vulnerability really helped me access my heart. Like so many of us, I live in my head and it’s not always easy for me to drop down into my heart space but watching you do so unlocked something in me and helped me do the same.
Melissa
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What you shared and spoke about resonated with me so deeply. Today you taught me how to truly connect with my inner child. It was so beautiful to see and hear how to go there. Deep patience, unlimited time, unconditional love, care, understanding, and unwavering support over a lifetime. Thank you, Jill, for sharing your gorgeous authentic self on the podcast episode. I have goosebumps!
Cindy
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Your story was fantastic and resonated deeply with me. I especially loved how you broke down your inner child work; it was honest, pure, and such good teaching.
Sara
Ready to reconnect with your inner child and begin the journey of healing and self-empowerment?
The Adult Chair® Model
The Adult Chair® is a manual for your life. It’s a tool that helps you feel empowered, confident, and equipped with a clear roadmap to your healthiest, most authentic self. Through The Adult Chair®, you will understand how your life experiences have shaped you, give a voice to the different parts of who you are, gain greater self-awareness, and respond to life in a healthy way.
The Child Chair
Your inner child forms between ages zero and seven, and it is the foundation of your true feelings and needs. The inner child is deeply vulnerable, which makes it the source of deep, connected relationships. It is also where early wounding can occur, which shapes our view of the world as we grow up. When seated in the Child Chair, we find creativity, passion, spontaneity, trust, and intimacy.
The Adolsecent Chair
In adolescence, you begin to develop your own identity and realize that you are separate and unique from the world around you. As the ego forms, so does the desire to protect yourself, whether the daggers are real or imagined. When seated in the Adolescent Chair, we become perfectionist, judgmental, and controlling, and we develop a mask to hide our authentic selves from a world that seems cold and rejecting. Most of us live from this place until we awake and decide we are ready to change.
The Adult Chair
The Adult Chair® represents your highest self: living in the present moment, dealing with facts and truth over stories and assumptions, and being able to set boundaries from a place of patience and compassion. While seated in the Adult Chair®, we can deeply connect with our inner child’s needs and feelings and objectively observe our adolescent’s behaviors. It is here, and only here, that we can become aware of—and overcome—the emotional triggers and negative patterns that hold us back.